How to have more time for the fun things in life

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A chic reader wrote to me explaining how she has a busy job and a long commute to work and simply wants more time to create and enjoy her chic life.  She doesn’t want to outsource food/ cooking and cleaning a) because of the expense and b) because she enjoys doing both herself.  

I can relate to this.  I like to make my own food because I feel in control of what goes into it (more so now that I am celiac) and even though I don’t much enjoy doing housework, I know it’s a state of mind and that I’d rather learn to enjoy the process than have someone else come in - I really like my privacy.  In addition, it’s very satisfying to finish a day of industry with a clean and welcoming home.

But you also want time to rest and have fun in your life as well, and sometimes it seems that that’s the part which is squeezed out.  Our chic reader mentions the types of things she’d like to do are going for a stroll after dinner, time for hobbies, reading a book and going to the pub or movies with her husband.

I’m no expert on anyone else’s life so I can only say what has worked for me, but I find that when we share information there’s often something in it that can help someone else see things in a different way.  Sometimes when reading a book or blog I pick up a single sentence that inspires me and sets me off in a new and fruitful direction, or at least gets me out of an unmotivated rut.

That’s why I love writing and reading; words strung together in a certain way can have so much effect on us, it almost seems miraculous at times.  To start the ball rolling, here are my ideas on creating more time to enjoy living a chic life (and I’d love to you to add thoughts of your own in the comments if you have anything to share).

Planning ahead.  I know it sounds obvious and possibly cliched, but when I plan ahead it makes the world of difference.  Thinking at the beginning of the week what we’re going to be doing (if we have any after-work engagements etc) and making sure we have ingredients for meals is important.  For me, more so at lunch otherwise I can be tempted by easy options which aren't as healthy; and now that I'm strictly gluten-free there often isn't another option and I end up hungry and grumpy if I'm trying to cobble something together at the last minute.  

In the winter I need to make sure we have something warming to heat up for lunch such as soup or a pasta bake which is served with a side salad.  In the summer a big salad with protein is the main.  For dinner, if we’re both working that day we’ll have a ‘readymade’ (by us) meal which we just add fresh vegetables to. Even if we have to cook from scratch, knowing what we're having and that we already have the ingredients is a big help. Having to stop at the supermarket when you're already hungry and tired is quite depressing to me.

Tidying up.  Keeping the house relatively clean and tidy means that when we get home after work we can put dinner on straight away and have some relaxing time (me with a book and my husband with the tv) while our dinner cooks.  That’s why we’re such fans of oven-baked meals - ease and time to ourselves.  I do sometimes put a load of washing on that needs to be hung out or bring a load in, but that’s the only housework-type things we’ll do when we’re both working that day.

Cleaning gets done once a week when either of us is home.  I’d love to be more spick and span and Martha Stewart, but at this stage of our lives when we’re both working a lot I’m content for things to be basically clean.  I don’t change our decorative displays around as much as I used to but it won’t be forever.  I’m working full-time and doing a lot of writing so there's not a lot of time for frills and I am content to keep life simple.  In the next year or two I hope not to be working full-time (or at all) and be an at-home writer with time to love our home to bits and be a very happy perfect housewife.

Having a routine.  Probably not everyone visits the library as regularly as we do, but we always pick up and drop off our books (and cds and dvds) on a Friday.  This means we don’t have to think about it other days and wonder when something is due back.  On Thursday I check online what needs to be returned the next day and put them in our library bags by the front door.  This is just one example for our household. You might find things in your routine that are haphazard that you can assign to a certain day each week (or fortnight, or month) so it becomes one less thing you have to think about because it's practically automatic.

Making time for things.  Sometimes I realise I haven’t done things I’d like to do simply because I haven’t chosen to do them.  Inertia is a very powerful thing and often stops me from getting stuff done.  If it’s a walk after dinner I'd like, I just do it before it gets too late and the tv sucks me onto the sofa.  If it’s getting dark out I have to con my husband into going (it doesn’t happen often because he's not a fan of the after dinner stroll like I am and it’s more like punishment for him).

With hobbies, I like to have hand-held things to do on the sofa so that I don’t feel like I’m wasting time watching tv or a movie.  I have an infinity scarf on circular needles that is in a decorative box under the coffee table so that I can pull it out at any time.  On a day off I might get into something a bit meatier such as a sewing project on my machine.  Because I work a lot right now these projects tend to be small so that I can feel like I’ve achieved something.  I just don’t have the time for a big project at the moment (if it takes too long to finish I might never get there).

One day though, I have dreams of making myself a simple Chanel-style jacket and skirt in some black and cream silk tweedy houndstooth I have, and making a big denim quilt for outdoor picnics from all the jean cutoffs and denim fabrics I’ve collected for a while.  I know these will happen and in the meantime I stick to my smaller projects.

With books, I read before I go to sleep at night, with breakfast and sometimes lunch, and after work.  I guess it depends how much you like to read as to how much you do it.  Finding a book that piques your interest is important too.  If you can’t get into a book it becomes a chore (I'll always give it 100 pages though).  I don’t have much of a commute now, but when I used to bus to work every day I would read there and back, or when in a car (if by myself) I’ll listen to an audiobook rather than the radio.  

There are no advertisements and you can listen to a story or be inspired by or learn from something non-fiction.  There’s loads to download or you can borrow audiobooks on cd or mp3 cd from your library (they are free of charge at our library and some are even eaudiobooks which you can borrow without leaving your computer).

I think the key with all these things is that I fit them around and into my schedule instead of not doing them at all because there's not a big chunk of time. When I used to work in the city I'd use my lunchbreak to get out of the office and go for a walk in the sun. If it was rainy and cold I'd browse in nice stores and feel good that way (I'm not really a spender but if I was that might not be a good thing to do). There was also a big library in the city so that was a nice place to go and read a book or magazine too.

Have a helpful mindset.  I find it really useful to not speak to myself in a negative way. I definitely can be my own Debbie Downer at times.  Sometimes I find that the running commentary in my brain is making me feel behind and panicky - I’ll be thinking to myself ‘I never have enough time, today is going to be like all those other days when I didn’t get everything done, I’ll always be behind and not get time for the fun things’.  It’s totally a self-fulfilling prophecy.

When I recognise this, I purposely change the soundtrack by repeating to myself ‘there’s plenty of time, I always get the important things done and have plenty of time for my crafts and reading’.  I tell myself that the Universe always has my back and everything will work out perfectly.  Getting back into this calmer mindset makes a big difference and I can actually enjoy both my work and play much more (and it makes me a nicer person too, because feeling time-pressured makes me snippy and sour, not chic at all).

Set good intentions.  Along the same lines is thinking ahead of time that you will be successful in what you want to do, whether it’s a fun pub outing or going to a movie.  If I think to myself ‘I’d love to see that movie but I know it’s not the kind that my husband will want to see and it’s pointless going mid-week because we’ll be too tired and we can’t go on the weekend because of…’ - it’s just a negative spiral.

Instead, when I first get the thought that there's a movie I'd like to view, I check out the times to see if there's one that will suit our work hours and the fact that we don't like to stay up too late. I honestly don't see how anyone can go to a movie that starts at 9pm and not fall asleep. I'll then see if my husband is keen - he usually is because he loves most movies, and thanks to our turn-about movie policy he rarely turns me down, just as I wouldn't to him. On that night we might buy food or have something quick planned.

I also set good intentions for the week (or day), in that I try and expect the best to happen, that I'll have internal motivation and will simply fly through my jobs and that I will enjoy myself along the way.

So, dear K, I hope there has been something useful for you in this post. My best advice is to plan to do the stuff you want to do and see what happens. As females, I often find we put others first and we don't tend to ask for what we want enough. I've been doing the latter more and have been surprised at how receptive my husband has been. It really was all about me and not about him (because he's not an ogre, he's a great guy). Make it sound fun and you'll have a keen partner in crime, and that in turn helps you get more excited about your plans and time obstacles will seem easier to overcome.

And again, I'd love to hear any other chic ideas for spinning more time out of thin air so we can do the things we'd love to do more of.

Happy new year to you all!

My wish for you

Christmas Eve in Auckland

I often wonder what is gained from writing like I do.  Sometimes I just sit down to write without thinking of what is going to be said.  I let the words flow forth and just sit and listen.  I truly believe this is the way I tap into the collective spirituality, which is me plus others.

My wish for you is to enjoy life.  To enjoy life whilst living with others around you.  To be happy to wake up every day and look forward to that day with gusto.  I know some days feel like the one before and the one before that because I can feel like that too.  When something happens to endanger that mundane daily feeling however, you are never so glad for a normal day to happen.

I’ve not had anything big or bad happen but I find that looking for the good in each day helps me appreciate life.

Actually I did have something little happen.  One day I woke up with an eye that would not stop watering.  It wasn’t irritated but I quickly realised my tears were not draining away from that eye for some reason.  All day, as soon as I blinked and a tear would form, it welled up in one eye.  It was difficult to see through this eye and then eventually a tear would roll down my cheek.

I hoped it would go away after a night’s sleep but no, I was still ‘crying’.  Days passed and this was still happening so I made an appointment with my GP, and then an expensive specialist.  He told me there was nothing that could be done apart from a five-figure operation to ‘cut a new tear passage’ which would leave a scar on the side of my nose.  Doesn’t that sound horrific and barbaric and totally over the top?

The specialist said the fact that my eye would not drain was all linked up with my sinus.  He prescribed me with six weeks of low-dose antibiotics and I went home feeling very depressed.

The ending to this story though is a happy one.  Before my eye started watering I had been looking in the mirror on a regular basis, seeing how my face was aging and wondering if minor plastic surgery was a ridiculous notion or something that I could do.  Yes, really. 

It sounds crazy now, because I don’t even care anymore.  I am just happy my eye is better and has continued to be fine long after the antibiotics finished.  I went for a public hospital check-up and the assistant did this amazing thing where she put anaesthetic drops in my eyes and then flushed out my tear ducts with the thinnest probe you’ve ever seen using saline solution.  She pronounced both tear ducts drained fine.  I just about skipped home afterwards (even though I was driving).  I felt light as air.

What shook up my plastic surgery thinking was reading that the condition I had (thankfully temporarily) could be caused by some plastic surgery operations.  Imagine if I did something for mere vanity and it caused a problem that needed to be fixed by more surgery, and even then that might not be fixed because once you start messing around with things you might just make it worse.

So I’m wondering if all this happened, and was sent to me by the Universe to cure me of any notion of wanting to ‘fix’ something on my face, to make me supremely happy and grateful for what I’ve got?  The ‘issue’ I initially considered having fixed is not entirely an aging thing, it’s a feature I’ve had forever.  I’m just glad the Universe stepped in to show me that I’m actually perfect as I am right now (and so are you, ‘imperfections’ and all!)

So my Christmas wish for you is to enjoy the happy days and the quiet days, the mundane days and the days where exciting things happen.  Treasure your face and body and the ones you love.  Whatever you are doing over the holiday season I hope you have fun.

I’ve loved writing on my blog this year and I thank you for reading. I’m also grateful to the many of you who have bought my books; this makes me really happy because I have many ideas for new titles to be released next year.

If you haven’t read ‘A Chic and Simple Christmas’ yet, I’d love to invite you to do so.  Not only will you find inspiration for this Christmas, but ideas for an exciting January, and thoughts to encourage you to think about the kind of Christmas you want to experience next year too.  Because you need to give others time to get their head around changes you might want to make in how you gift or where you’ll travel to, for example.

Happy, happy Christmas to you dear chic friends and I will talk to you all soon. xxx

You are enough

I listened to a fantastic talk by Marisa Peer this week and I’m still thinking about it.  It has affected me profoundly!  (It’s above, or you can click through to YouTube to watch it here).

She talks about a commonality amongst all types of people, from Hollywood superstars to those of us that are living a more normal life, and it is that we feel we are not enough.  That we somehow are failing because we are not perfect like we think we need to be.  She's such a funny and engaging speaker and says that we're not born like this, that no baby thinks 'I'm having a bad hair day' or 'I've got triple knees', no, they just gurgle and smile and accept all the attention they're getting!

I certainly related to a lot of what Marisa was saying, and listening to her talk really helped me out. You see, I’ve been feeling a bit down over having gained weight since this time last year.  Comfort eating over our southern hemisphere winter has led me to be a whole dress size bigger.  Sugar is the main culprit for me and I have been eating much less of it now - not to be skinnier though, but just to feel good about myself, both physically and mentally.

Listening to Marisa's talk made me realise I am enough.  Even with a bit of extra padding, even if I feel flawed, I am still enough.  Just saying this to myself when I’m feeling annoyed for giving into the sugar cravings and because my clothes are tight, I do feel better. 

And I’ve discovered the universal truth, which is that you can’t change something about yourself if you feel bad about it.  So hating your weight, for example, doesn’t mean you’re going to lose it easily.  More than likely you’re going to self-sabotage and eat something fattening.  Telling yourself I am enough, on the other hand, is going to calm and relax you and help you make better decisions.  As lightweight and non-altering as it sounds, those words really do work some magic.

I also conquered another belief that I had, which was that if I bought myself some new clothes, it was a waste because I planned to lose weight and I’d have wasted my money then.  I believed that I should continue to wear the bigger size clothes that I have had for so long now that they are starting to show their age, until I’m skinnier.  Basically that I don’t deserve new clothes unless I am a certain size.

I know.  It seems so heartless written down but that’s what I was telling myself.  Even in the changing room when I was trying things on I thought, ‘oh I can just wear my old clothes until I lose some weight, they’re fine’.  And it’s not as if my weight is going to halve; I’m sure I could still wear the new clothes even if my weight did go down.  And if I stayed my current weight for the rest of my life?  What then?  Never buy anything new, ever?

You will be pleased to know that I bought the new clothes, in a size that is comfortable, and I’ve felt amazing wearing them.  I’ve looked forward to getting dressed in the morning and am having fun mixing and matching new and existing (non-threadbare) pieces.  And that flows through to how you feel about yourself don’t you think?  That you’re worth spending money on and looking nice at any size.  That you’re enough.

I am enough.

Those three words have been saving my life this week (does that sound too dramatic?) and I think I’m in love with them.  Thank you Marisa, the work you are doing is fabulous and so needed.

If you are reading this post right now, know that you are enough too.  Completely and utterly.  Say them to yourself over and over – ‘I am enough’.  You might feel like a dork but keep on doing it and really feel it.  It will soak in, I promise.

Is there something you’ve been putting off until that mythical time when you’re the perfect weight or your living situation is perfect or whatever strict limitations you’ve put on yourself?  The first thing that pops into your mind, I challenge you to do something towards it.

A lovely reader of my Facebook page wrote to me this week and said she’s started ballet lessons that she’d been wanting to do for years, simply from being inspired by my Facebook posts on living a chic life.  That really made my day!  I love it when people tell me things like that, so thank you Y, for reaching out.

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A Chic and Simple Christmas

If you haven’t read my newest Kindle eBook ‘A Chic and Simple Christmas’ it’s not too late to download it here.  If your holiday season experiences don’t quite match the idyllic vision you have in your mind, I’d love for you to be inspired by ‘A Chic and Simple Christmas’ where I share how to create a holiday season you’ll love.

If you don’t have a Kindle eReader you can download the computer version for free so you can still read all the fabulous eBooks that are out there.  Download the Kindle eReader free from Amazon here.

And if you have already read ‘A Chic and Simple Christmas’, I’d love it if you could share a favourite idea or something you’ve done differently as a result.  I'd doubly love it if you could leave me an honest review on Amazon as well.  I only have two reviews so far - thank you so much ii and Princess - and would be so happy to have some more to keep them company!

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Inspiration to exercise

Many times I have credited the purchase of a tiny (one-inch square!), inexpensive and easy-to-use iPod Shuffle as the reason why I now happily walk 5-7 days per week which has resulted in my legs becoming shapelier (even if I’m a bit bigger, they still look toned) and saved my sanity many times (I might be grumpy when I get home, go out for a half hour walk and come back feeling so much better).

My iPod also helps me with the housework because I can potter around happily doing my jobs whilst listening to something interesting.

I get through a lot of audio books and podcasts as you can imagine, so I was excited to see that Audible is offering two free audiobooks with a free one-month trial.  Yay, because some of the audiobooks are quite expensive normally! 

My favourites are all there as well:

‘It’s All Too Much: An easy plan for living a richer life with less stuff’ by Peter Walsh (the author narrates which is a bonus; I love his voice and he’s so motivating to me)

‘The Millionaire Next Door’ and ‘Stop Acting Rich’ by Thomas J Stanley

And even Allen Carr’s ‘The Easy Way to Control Alcohol’ (I read his ‘No More Hangovers’ book first but also read ‘The Easy Way to Control Alcohol which is a longer version of the same thing – they’re both amazing and… I’m still a happy non-drinker, 3.5 years later). 

You can get your two free Audible audiobooks here.

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Happy week-before-Christmas everyone.  Be festively chic!

Seeking simplicity?

When I think about what my core values are, a word I keep coming back to is simplicity. It’s not that I want to live my life in an empty room with nothing and nobody around me, but when things get too busy, whether it’s the contents of my home, my schedule or the thoughts in my mind; it doesn’t feel good to me. What feels much better is having space in all senses of the word. Space to move around, space to breathe, space to think and space in time.

I think the most important thing for us to consider is just when that feeling of discomfort kicks in, when our internal compass is telling us ‘it’s getting crowded’. If you ignore that voice it’s easy to start acting out by being snappy with people, eating when you’re not hungry and deciding to go shopping because a new something will make you feel better. I identify with all these things.

Knowing now that I have a core value of simplicity means that I can take action much sooner, and one day I’d love to be able to simply ‘be’ in simplicity all the time. I know that it’s not something outside of me though and that I can have simplicity any time I like, even right now. Making the decision to have a life of simplicity marks a point where everything else flows on from.

For me, a life of simplicity would contain plenty of time to get all my jobs done and still have time to read, noodle, potter and play. It would also mean that food is enjoyable nourishment and not my main source of pleasure (because I have other things for that).

There are many ways I can bring these ideas into being. The discipline of being organised is not pushed aside, because it feels good when I have things under control. Taking actions on small and big things as they arise, with no procrastination is key. Every piece of paper I don’t action whether it’s to file, throw out or make a phone call for, represents a leak of energy. You know that slightly heavy feeling of little things undone?

Not trying to pack too much into a day is another way I can cultivate the feeling of simplicity. And then doing those few things so that I feel proud at the end of the day.

Simplicity in food means there is a feeling of peace. I’m not trying to avoid certain foods to be skinny, rather, I’m choosing not to buy and eat certain foods because I don’t feel well afterwards. That feels far more empowering to me.

Simplicity of the mind means not overthinking things (which I am a master at). When my brain is whirring like a runaway train, how blissful it feels to stop and think ‘all is well, I am enough, life is good, I am safe today and always’. I can then think ‘what is the next step, what do I want to do next’.

That might be what the feeling of simplicity boils down to – taking things one step at a time, doing a job as it needs to be done with no multi-tasking; finishing something I have started and feeling satisfied with a task completed.

It’s especially important at this time of the year when we have more to do and less time to do it in. List everything out, pick the first thing to do and just start with that.

A Chic and Simple Christmas

I'm excited to let you know about my newest eBook, just out today.  I wrote ‘A Chic and Simple Christmas’ because I wanted to find out the reason why I simultaneously looked forward to the holiday season so much, but at the same time dreaded it as a time of stress and anxiety.

The Christmas of my dreams was a chic and simple affair full of joy and fun things, but the reality wasn’t nearly as much fun. It was stressful! So I decided to deconstruct just why this was, and find out how I could create a holiday season that not only made me happier, but also more enjoyable for my loved ones.

If your holiday season experiences don’t quite match the idyllic vision you have in your mind, I’d love for you to be inspired by ‘A Chic and Simple Christmas’ where I share how to create a holiday season you’ll love.

While this book does include a bonus chapter of favourite Christmas posts from this blog, more than 70% of ‘A Chic and Simple Christmas’ is original content and has never been published anywhere else before.

Yay for the holiday season starting, festivities are in the air!

You can purchase from Amazon here.

Update:

I found out that the formatting of my new eBook went a little bit wonky in between my computer and Amazon Kindle, with some words being run together (you can imagine my palpitations, I want it to be perfect for you!).

This has been corrected now, so if you noticed these flaws on your copy, you should be able to update to the newest version with these steps to receive updates to your Kindle books automatically:

1. Turn on the Annotations Backup* for your Kindle device or Kindle reading app to sync your notes, highlights, bookmarks, and furthest page read
2. Go to the Manage Your Content and Devices page
3. Select "Automatic Book Update" under the Settings tab
4. Select "On" from the dropdown menu

Note: The Automatic Book Update feature may not yet be available for markets outside of the U.S.

*The following devices automatically enable the Annotations Backup: Fire HD, Fire HDX, Kindle for Android, Kindle for Windows 8, and Kindle for BlackBerry 10.  As a result, you cannot turn off the Annotations Backup.

I have asked Amazon to contact all purchasers with the new version so hopefully you should have this soon if the above doesn't change anything.

I'm so sorry for the muck-up, and have learnt a lot for next time. Thank you for being wonderful, kind, chic and beautiful ladies!

Staying youthful by learning

My crazy-small iPod Shuffle - the 'makes me go walking every day' miracle

I used to pride myself on not being 'sucked in' to all the high-tech gadgets with never-ending upgrades and saving money by keeping things simple. I didn't have a smart phone and was very happy with my Nokia which just made calls and texts.

In the past few months I have upgraded my thoughts around this and now am the happy owner of a Kindle eReader, as well as an external hard drive to back up our files and I'm currently in the process of purchasing a new fancy laptop since my old one had a terminal episode and could not be revived. Not to mention the tiny iPod Shuffle (it's one-inch square!) I bought over a year ago which is the reason why I am happy to go for a nice long walk most days.

I still don't have a smart phone though; I’m taking the upgrades in baby steps :)

So just what changed my mind when it comes to technology? I was reading a Sunday supplement article featuring women in their 60s to 70s who considered themselves very youthful. They all talked about how their thinking kept them young, being interested in new things and also being keen to learn about new things.

The one woman who affected me most said how she was on Facebook and wanted to learn it to both keep in touch with her grandchildren and also because keeping up to date and learning about new technology keeps your brain young.

Within an instant I knew I wanted to change my thoughts on technology, from 'I don't need to know all this stuff, I like to live a simple life.' to 'I'm going to educate myself. It doesn't mean I'm going to suddenly go out and spend heaps of money on gadgets, but I'm not opposed to gadgets either. If I do choose to buy something in the future, I'll know what I'm talking about'.

I know I'm only 45, and still have many decades to go, but I don't want to start falling behind now and be clueless as things progress. Firstly I decided to read the junk mail and see what's available and learn the lingo. In addition, when friends have something I don't know much about I ask them questions. I'm not afraid of sounding dumb and people are always happy to share with you what they know.

I've learnt so much already and am loving my most recent 'high-tech' (for me!) purchase of a Kindle. There are so many cool Kindle books being written now that aren't available as a print copy because often they are quite small. I've purchased a number of them and they're on my laptop, but it was rare that I'd sit down and read even a short book sitting at my desk.

When I saw that the price of a starter-model Kindle on Amazon wasn't actually too prohibitive, I decided to act boldly and order one. I love that I can read all my ebooks in bed, on the sofa or when I'm waiting for an appointment. It tucks into my handbag and I pull it out for a quick read if I have a few minutes. My place is saved in the book so I can carry on reading from where I left off.

Something else exciting that I didn't realise about Kindle is that you can email a Word document to your own Kindle email and it's saved as an ebook. I have so many Word documents that, again, I wouldn't sit at my desk and read, but now they're like extra juicy ebooks tailored to my taste. Some are inspiration from others (collected blog posts, article snippets etc), and some are documents I've written to inspire myself on a certain topic.

When I bought my Kindle about a month ago it had $20 off ($79.99 down to $59.99) which I thought was great but when researching this post saw that there is a special Black Friday sale of $30 off so they are now $49.99.  I'm a bit miffy that it's $10 less than I paid but c'est la vie.

My husband laughs (nicely) at me now, saying that I used to look down on people who wasted their money on updating their gadgets all the time and now I'm happily sitting there reading my Kindle. What can I say other than it's a woman's perogative to change her mind?

Are you a gadget-girl? Low-tech? What is something you've invested in that you couldn’t imagine living without now?  Or tell me about something you're proud of having learnt this year.

Making inspired chic changes

Wouldn't this be a nice dressing room (from decorpad.com)

Reader Rebecca wrote:

I think the biggest barrier I have to living a more chic simple French-inspired life is that I feel overwhelmed by the thought of the changes I'd have to make.

For example, I need to change my wardrobe, but before that I need to lose weight, but before that I need to change my diet, but before that I need to find recipes, but before that I need to use the food I have etc.

I get so bogged down in the minute details and overwhelmed by the magnitude I become paralyzed with doubt and questions and do nothing.

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What a great question!  Can I say, I hear you - I have done the exact same thing. When I have a fun idea such as ‘I want to create my perfect and most chic wardrobe - why not do it today?’, it seems that my mind immediately jumps to ‘but I have to do that first before I can do this, and then this other thing comes first, and what would I do with the decluttered clothes, some cost me money’... It turns into this big long chain that I have to start at the beginning and of course it makes it difficult to be enthused to do anything because it’s hard within one second. Whew!

My first thought to counteract all this? Something that has really helped me is to do the one thing that excites you and start with that, not what you think you should do.

Just taking one little step can spark off all sorts of other things. If the thought of having a chic minimal wardrobe excites you, have a play around in your closet and take out everything you think does not deserve to be there for this exercise. Do it straight away and brush away thoughts of weight loss or what you ‘should’ be doing instead (often when I do something like this I gain lots of energy and end up finishing my other tasks in record time).

With your closet, either hang the pieces you’ve taken out in another closet or even put them in a suitcase for now. Use your new chic minimal wardrobe for a little while and see how different you feel. It might lead onto eating cleaner food. An unsweetened tea or coffee might appeal more than a snack between meals. I’ve found both these things to be the case. Changing one thing often leads to changing other things, it's like a chain reaction - you're mixing up your little world so things happen!

Sometimes if I have too much junky food in the pantry I do the same as the wardrobe. I put everything on the kitchen counter, wipe out the pantry and put back only the elegant and stylish food. A few times I've even stored all the potato chips etc. in our guest bedroom in a box so I didn't see them every day. It has helped with my eating, definitely - and there are no potato chips or junky sweet stuff in our house currently :).

Pretend you're the chic and elegant lady of your dreams and make it fun. Incredibly the ‘pretend you’ influences your real life in a good way – yay for that! I hope this has been useful, and I’d love to hear anyone else’s thoughts if you have done anything similar.