Friday, December 11, 2015
When I think about what my core values are, a word I keep coming back to is simplicity. It’s not that I want to live my life in an empty room with nothing and nobody around me, but when things get too busy, whether it’s the contents of my home, my schedule or the thoughts in my mind; it doesn’t feel good to me. What feels much better is having space in all senses of the word. Space to move around, space to breathe, space to think and space in time.
I think the most important thing for us to consider is just when that feeling of discomfort kicks in, when our internal compass is telling us ‘it’s getting crowded’. If you ignore that voice it’s easy to start acting out by being snappy with people, eating when you’re not hungry and deciding to go shopping because a new something will make you feel better. I identify with all these things.
Knowing now that I have a core value of simplicity means that I can take action much sooner, and one day I’d love to be able to simply ‘be’ in simplicity all the time. I know that it’s not something outside of me though and that I can have simplicity any time I like, even right now. Making the decision to have a life of simplicity marks a point where everything else flows on from.
For me, a life of simplicity would contain plenty of time to get all my jobs done and still have time to read, noodle, potter and play. It would also mean that food is enjoyable nourishment and not my main source of pleasure (because I have other things for that).
There are many ways I can bring these ideas into being. The discipline of being organised is not pushed aside, because it feels good when I have things under control. Taking actions on small and big things as they arise, with no procrastination is key. Every piece of paper I don’t action whether it’s to file, throw out or make a phone call for, represents a leak of energy. You know that slightly heavy feeling of little things undone?
Not trying to pack too much into a day is another way I can cultivate the feeling of simplicity. And then doing those few things so that I feel proud at the end of the day.
Simplicity in food means there is a feeling of peace. I’m not trying to avoid certain foods to be skinny, rather, I’m choosing not to buy and eat certain foods because I don’t feel well afterwards. That feels far more empowering to me.
Simplicity of the mind means not overthinking things (which I am a master at). When my brain is whirring like a runaway train, how blissful it feels to stop and think ‘all is well, I am enough, life is good, I am safe today and always’. I can then think ‘what is the next step, what do I want to do next’.
That might be what the feeling of simplicity boils down to – taking things one step at a time, doing a job as it needs to be done with no multi-tasking; finishing something I have started and feeling satisfied with a task completed.
It’s especially important at this time of the year when we have more to do and less time to do it in. List everything out, pick the first thing to do and just start with that.