I’m not a really flossy person, not on the outside anyway. But on the inside I’m a true romantic. I love to dream up all the delicious ways I can live a dreamy life, at the same time as being practical and getting things done of course.
The fabulous thing about creating inspiration in my head and letting it flow out from there, is that I am not relying on anyone else to behave in a certain way before I can feel like I have romance in my life. Instead it’s the opposite: simply by me creating it for myself, I feel good, and that affects those around me in a positive way also.
As an aside, when I talk about romance and feeling romantic, it’s not just about a love affair with the opposite sex, I’m talking about romance in all aspects of my life; perhaps living in a fanciful and fun way is a better way to describe it. I just know that it feels good.
Synonyms for romance are: enchantment, fascination, amour, flirtation, intrigue, love and passion. For romantic: adventurous, exotic, visionary, chivalrous, picturesque and extravagant. Ooh la la, don’t we all need to whip up more of these delicious ideals in case our lives start to feel a little pedestrian?
There are many ways I can bring about the feeling of romance into my every day, and these are just a few of them:
· Playing Rod Stewart’s American Songbook albums. Standards always appeal, and Rod’s way of doing them makes me feel so relaxed and like I’m sipping a cool drink in a hotel lobby bar
· Nostalgia – good feelings come flooding in when I treat myself to a favourite movie from a long time ago (Les Amants du Pont-Neuf which I saw at the movies in the early 90s with a girlfriend comes to mind), indulging in memories of Laura Ashley style in the 80s and spritzing on Estee Lauder’s Beautiful perfume when I’m out browsing
· Lighting candles, even if it’s daytime, even if it’s summer
· Reading Victoria magazine, Jane Seymour’s Guide to Romantic Living book (it’s a little dated but has many great ideas) and old-fashioned novels from authors like Grace Livingston Hill (I've only read Crimson Roses so far of hers, and it was lovely, very sweet and chaste)
· Dressing in flowing garments such as palazzo pants at home in the summer. I recently bought a new winter nightgown and it’s so soft and lovely to wear, in pale pink stripes (and still fits with my ‘sexy and sophisticated’ nightwear essence words).
· Cooking a nourishing and nurturing meal for my love and myself
· Romancing myself with kind words, noting what I’m proud of and congratulating myself on both big and tiny achievements
· Going for a walk outside – an after dinner stroll is my favourite way to feel romantic if I can con my husband into it (if I’m lucky I can cajole him into an after dinner stroll a few times a year)
· It may sound strange to say ‘doing something by yourself’, but one of my favourite ways to feel romance is to go to a movie by myself during the day (likely a French subtitled movie since my husband is not a huge fan of subtitles) or going for a window shop and coffee with my journal in a chi chi part of town
· Buying flowers is an easy one, however since I’m only comme ci comme ça on cut flowers, I either pick them from our (very basic) garden or occasionally buy myself a potted indoor plant or punnet of annuals to plant in a terracotta pot outside
I believe we’re here to celebrate every day, even the ordinary days, especially the ordinary days. Life really is too short to wait for something special to come along. Making today special, every day, is how we can most honour the time we are given.
What about you? What makes you feel romantic? How do you like to bring romance into your life?