A reader writes:
I'm in my mid-30s but most of the style blogs I read are written for someone 10-20 years (or more) older than me. What advice would you give to the woman who wants to age gracefully / beautifully / chic-ly? What advice would you give to your 35-year old self if you could send a message now?
Dear chic friend,
This may not be the answer you want to hear, but I’d pretty much give the same advice to me at 30 or 35 as I would to me now, at 45, truly! These are all things I’d advise my younger self to consider; however they are equally applicable to me today.
Relax. There is no cartoon metal anvil hanging over your head that you don’t know about.
Worry less. Worry is really bad for you! I have borderline high blood pressure which is hereditary, and I’m working on being more sanguine so as to help myself be healthy (and I've also cut out added salt at dinnertime).
Keep on curating. There will always be another clothing sale, don’t worry if you miss one. You probably don’t want the clothes in that sale anyway – wait until there’s something you really want and buy it even if you have to pay a little more. You’ll value and wear it more than all those cheap garments.
Seek to find your own personal style. It’s actually right in front of you and you’ve always known what it was. Look back to what you loved to wear when you were younger. For me, it was the classics. I felt boring sometimes and tried other styles, but I always came back to the classic pieces. Look to fashion for inspiration, but always follow your own taste; it will never let you down.
Work on eliminating your bad habits. It won’t get any easier as you get older; they catch up with you then.
Take good care of your health and seek a second opinion if you feel it necessary. The spot on my leg that I had two doctors look at and both told me it was harmless. I was less sure and paid for it to be removed. It was melanoma (all gone now).
Don’t hang around on Someday Isle. Life will flash by quickly if you put things off. Make exciting plans and take action on them. Keep moving, you don’t want to be stuck in a stagnant stream. That’s when I turn to ‘fun’ food to liven things up (such a great plan. Not).
Find chic mentors. If there are ladies around you that you aspire to be like, be friendly with them and ask them out for lunch or coffee if appropriate. If they’re that bit too far removed to do that, simply observe them from afar. I have ladies (and a few guys) in my life who both a similar age and older who all inspire me to be my best.
Learn to enjoy good, real food. I’ve let this slide over the years and am still cleaning up my eating habits. It’s easy to keep putting things off and thinking you’ll deal with them later, but later never comes. Why not be healthy and happy now?
So, what would you say to your younger self? I know there is lots of wisdom in your head that we can share and learn from. Whether we would have listened at a younger age is another story altogether, tee hee.
Wishing you a wonderful and chic weekend.