I had a thought, that ‘what if I was elegant in everything I did?’ If I chose to be elegant no matter what? Over time it would come to feel completely natural, and I would become an elegant woman just like other elegant women I admire.
Anticipating the feeling of embodying elegance at all times immediately gave me a sense of fun, excitement and happiness. I will be elegant in:
What I wear
What I eat
What I read
How I behave
How I speak
How I move
The words I use
How I dress
What movies or tv programmes I watch
How I keep my house
How I conduct myself at work, with customers, suppliers and how I do my admin tasks
How I am groomed
The boundaries I put up
The people I let into my life and how I let them behave (boundaries as above)
How I uphold boundaries around my own behaviour
The kind of people I look to for guidance (both in my real life and ones I don’t know such as celebrities and personalities)
Embodying elegance at all times will benefit me in so many ways and I don’t have to be stuffy about it either. I used to equate being an elegant person with staid out-of-touchness and having no fun, but I don’t now. I don’t know what has changed, but I know now that choosing elegance will elevate everything about my experience at the same time as me still being who I am, enjoying myself, and being relatable.
Ways in which embodying elegance at all times will benefit me and those around me:
I will be the same whether I am at home by myself or spending time with others
I will feel at home wherever I am
I will feel better about myself – no remorse or harsh words to myself
It feels lovely – even just thinking about living an elegant life fills me with such joy and pleasure
The more I embody it on the inside, the more it shows up on the outside and vice versa
It is a very feminine way to be
Being this way makes me feel happy, light and carefree
I know my husband will enjoy this too. Every so often he’ll say things out of the blue like ‘I love that you are so feminine’ or ‘I’m so lucky'. It’s nice to hear, and I love that he appreciates the things I do – but I equally love that I do them because I enjoy them and do them for my own pleasure, not just for him.
Do you find elegance easy to embody? Do you have any tips to share on how you maintain elegance – either of the mind or physically? When you think of the word elegant, who is the first celebrity that comes to mind for you – female or male? I'm going to choose Andie MacDowell; I love the way she talks, moves, dresses, talks and looks in movies and on tv. I'm watching season 2 of Cedar Cove currently - it has such a lovely, gentle, small-town perfectness about it. I also loved Andie in Green Card, and Four Weddings and a Funeral. Aah, yes, I am a fan!