I love to feel feminine, and am always creating my own inspiration. I find that introducing little pockets of femininity into my day helps everything run smoother. I feel more ladylike and life is enjoyable – even when I’m doing mundane tasks.
The final post in this series is on using the sense of touch to be more feminine.
Choosing fabrics that feel pleasing to your skin
Sometimes I wouldn’t wear clothing items simply because I didn’t want to, and when I asked myself ‘why are you bypassing your new top, Fiona’, it was because the fabric felt bad against my skin. I now know to avoid slithery knits (they feel as awful as they sound) and anything scratchy such as linen that is too rough.
Some of it has to do with the quality of the fabric, because in the fabric world there is short staple fibre fabric and long staple fibre fabric. As I understand it, short staple fibres are cheaper because they use scrappy fibres, and those short, stiffer fibres stick out of the fabric more and poke into your skin (they are microscopic). Long staple fibres are more expensive, using long fibres that are more supple and weave through, with the ends not sticking out as much. If anyone knows more, perhaps they could share?
That’s the reason why buying cheap high-thread count sheets are a false economy. I used to think that thread count was a guarantee, but I realised it is not after I bought some pure cotton high-thread count sheets from a discount store. They are stiffer and scratchier (even after washing) than other more expensive sheets I have, despite their high thread-count.
Quality isn’t always related to price though, because the scarf in the photo above, I bought from H&M here for NZ$9 (about US$6) and I love it. It is light as a feather (and has feathers printed on it, coincidentally) and feels wonderful against my skin.
Having fabric touch your skin that is displeasing threatens your femininity because it makes you grumpy! When I am grumpy with something, I tend to be more masculine by stomping, snapping, harsh words etc. It just feels nicer to and puts me in a better mood when I have nothing irritating my skin.
Keeping your skin hydrated
I am a huge fan of moisturising and do it now more than I ever have before. It’s so important to both the health and appearance of your skin, and I think this is what sets us apart from men – having soft skin. It’s a particularly feminine thing to do (you'd hardly ever see a man moisturising his hands) and I adore the ritual of my morning toilette where I moisturise my whole body after my shower.
Additional moisturisings throughout the day include:
Hand lotion or cream many times
Neck and décolletage before I go to bed
A thick cream on my feet (not every day, but maybe twice a week)
To supplement external moisturising, keep your skin hydrated from the inside out by drinking plenty of water and eating water-rich foods (fresh fruit and non-starchy vegetables), and good fats such as raw nuts and avocados
Whether it’s internal or external, I don’t believe you can hydrate your skin too much. You will never look back in life and think to yourself ‘I wish I hadn’t drunk so much water over the years’ or ‘I wish I hadn’t eaten so much fresh fruit in the past’!
What are some ways that you use the sense of touch to feel more feminine in your life? I would love to hear, because (as always) I really enjoy all the ideas in the comments section. If you have never commented before, I invite you to today!
And I would also like to take this opportunity to wish you a wonderful Christmas, whatever you are doing. We are hosting my husband's family on Christmas day, and it will also be our last Christmas in Auckland. Next Christmas we will be sunning ourselves at our new home in Havelock North on the beautiful east coast of the north island of New Zealand (we don't have a new home yet and will begin the process of selling our home next year, but I'm sure we will find a wonderful home before next Christmas).
Thank you for making this blog what it is; I have 'met' so many kind, funny, beautiful and lovely ladies and appreciate every page view, comment, suggestion, idea, email and message. How lucky am I? Every day I think that, so thank you.
Merry Christmas everyone.