I love to feel feminine, and am always creating my own inspiration. I find that introducing little pockets of femininity into my day helps everything run smoother. I feel more ladylike and life is enjoyable – even when I’m doing mundane tasks.
The fourth post in this series is on using the sense of hearing to be more feminine.
The right kind of classical music instantly elevates the frequency of an environment to me. I used to think it was boring and old-fashioned when I was younger, and now, thankfully, I have grown into appreciating it. I love that our favourite five-star hotel plays elegant sounding violin concertos and sometimes has a live harpist playing.
At home I have a playlist with lots of classical pieces which I have gradually curated to include only those that I love. If anything is too clangy, strident or cannon-y, I delete it. As a result I now listen to a mix of soothing strings and calming adagios. Listen to the one below on YouTube, it’s glorious. I feel instantly more elegant and refined when I have music like this playing (but I still love many other genres too!)
Having a lovely voice
In my book Thirty Chic Days, I mention that I strive to keep my voice pleasant. I have horrors of turning into a shrewish, screeching fishwife; so to avoid this I try to remember to walk into a room to talk to someone rather than yell for them, and endeavour to speak as much as necessary and not dominate the conversation. I don’t always manage it, but at least I try, right?
Instead of fishwife, I’m going to aim for Lady Mary Crawley.
And another thing: do you ever leave somewhere thinking ‘I couldn’t stop talking; whatever must they think of me?’ I do! Or rather, I did. I think (I hope) I am better at this now – the two-conversation thing where you ask questions of others and actually listen to what they say. The two ears, one mouth thing is so on point, as always.
Do you enjoy classical music? Is it boring or elegant to you? What about your voice… fishwife? Or Lady Mary? Your secret is safe with me.
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