I love to see ladies (and men) quite a bit older than me who seem youthful and vibrant. A friend’s mother comes to mind – she’s not that old, probably in her sixties or nearing seventy, and she is always a fun lady to bump into. She never complains about anything, she talks up everyone she knows and if she doesn’t agree with something it’s said in a jokey and nice way.
Because my husband and I run a shoe store, I have seen her feet, and she has the most misshapen big toes I have ever seen – they actually bend in middle - yet she laughs about them and says it’s from years of wearing stiletto heels in the 1960s. If her toes hurt, you’d never know. They probably wouldn’t dare actually.
This lady and others like her inspire me to age well, to get more positive as I get older and get on with the important job of enjoying life.
A seventy-year-old who is healthy, vibrant and happy will be more attractive than a younger woman with a sour and pinched outlook on life who doesn't take care of herself. Of course you can tell the seventy-year-old is older but that is going to be the case no matter what. She will still be more attractive than younger Miss Sour and Pinched.
I believe you will be most content if you accept your age, and focus on making the most off your health, looks and happiness with every advancing year.
How much nicer would it be to think of yourself that you get 'better with every year - healthier, happier, more hobbies, friends, books read' rather than 'another year older, look how old I look, don’t get old it’s horrible' and basically counting down until the day you die. Which sounds more fun to you?
I know there are health issues to face and possible bereavements and other difficulties, however these are not the exclusive preserve of older people; there are many youngsters who face all of these things. And it seems to be a medical fact that stress can make you ill, so by stressing about all the bad aspects of aging you could be making things worse. That’s a downward spiral I wouldn’t mind avoiding.
Conversely, focusing on all the good parts of getting older you could be doing yourself (and your loved ones, for they have to live with you) a huge favour. I can see there are tons of items on the ‘positives of aging’ list, such as:
Getting richer over time, simply because you’ve been earning for longer
Having more wisdom from your experiences
More free time to do what you love – hobbies and activities
Less concern for what others think of you
More likely to do exactly what you want – others can’t talk you into things
You’ve worked out your personal style, what colours suit you
Watching the two Marigold Hotel movies and others of their type always helps me feel more positive about getting older. I love to see retirees behaving badly – my nana Valarie was a great one for doing exactly what she wanted to. She wore stylish and elegant clothing right through – no old lady dresses or frumpy weight gain for her. She thumbed her nose at the authorities and drove her Mini even when she no longer had a license (she didn’t go far, don’t worry) and the hilarious thing about that is that she wore a giant sombrero so they wouldn’t see it was her. As if a hat like that was going to help her go incognito through the streets of the small town she lived in!
If you are retired, I’d love to hear all the wonderful and fantastic things about being so, and if you are younger, please tell us what you are most looking forward to as you get older.
For me, it’s having more time to sew, knit, read and travel. Yippee!