One of my favourite ways to feel more feminine is to indulge in ‘boudoir time’. My version of boudoir time starts between 8pm and 9pm. If we have dinner early enough and are cleaned up, I retire from television viewing and go up to our bedroom. I have the lamps on but not the overhead lights; I may have an herbal tea and I spread myself out with all my journals, a book or a soothing magazine such as Victoria.
Part of my boudoir time is taking an extended makeup removal and face wash, perhaps applying a clay mask. I recently bought a Clarisonic facial brush which I use each morning in the shower, so I don’t use an exfoliant anymore, but I love to apply a clay mask on my t-zone, with coconut oil on my cheeks as a moisturising mask.
While my mask works, I turn on my relaxing spa music and spread myself out over our bed with my journals, a book and maybe a Victoria magazine. I may have a herbal tea to sip as well, or a glass of water. I've been journalling more lately. After about 15-20 minutes I wash my masks off and then change the water in the basin to give a final rinse with clean water and enjoy putting on my serum, night cream and eye cream. I also apply my lavender body lotion to neck, decolletage, arms, shoulders, wrists and hands.
I pack up all my journals, books and magazines and put them away, then settle into bed with my current book.
There are so many benefits to boudoir time:
- It is far more relaxing and conducive to sleeping well than watching tv or being on the computer
- I won't be tempted to work late
- My eyes won't get scratchy because I'm still on the computer even though I'm really tired
- It feels feminine and like I am a lady of leisure
- It feels meditative which is good because I don't do any other type of meditation
- I can actually feel my muscles relax when I turn on the soothing spa music
- I love my journalling time and have come up with some great insights and ideas
- There is no cost – it’s completely free to do
- I sleep well after this calming wind-down to bed time
- It feels like I take my self-care seriously when I make time to do this
- It is a very enjoyable hour or so
- It feels very feminine and ‘French’ to pamper myself in this way
- I feel like I am living my idealistic dream life when I do this at least a couple of times a week
- Doing this slows down time, it punctuates the week and stops one week sliding into the next
If you’ve read or are reading my new book Thirty Chic Days, you may notice I mention boudoir time a few times. I’m a fan! What about you? Do you do anything similar? I’d love to hear about any soothing evening rituals you might have.