Common wisdom says that whatever you give someone attention for encourages them to do more of the same. It’s used with children and even for training dogs. Therefore, to apply it to ourselves, this wisdom says that you would do well to focus on the good behaviour and ignore the bad behaviour - because you want more of the good, and not the bad of course.
It makes so much sense. Instead of telling ourselves we cannot stay up late because we will be tired in the morning or we cannot eat treat foods all the time; why not reframe these statements? Many examples spring to mind and reading this list is very appealing to me (more so than a list of nots):
More water (to drink)
More fruit and vegetables
More early nights
More home-cooked meals
More quiet time
More time spent grooming
More time spent organising
Doesn’t that sound much more motivating?
For me, in addition to the above, this week I’m going to focus on:
More time to spare by being better organised
More books to read
More positive affirmations
More green tea
What are you going to do MORE of?