tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4130537499074859934.post7552866392698464764..comments2024-03-28T22:30:17.628+13:00Comments on How to be Chic: How to be the belle of the partyFiona Ferrishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01493105915055099408noreply@blogger.comBlogger43125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4130537499074859934.post-24178340304449016902017-02-24T04:07:35.181+13:002017-02-24T04:07:35.181+13:00Glad to be of help and thank you for all of your k...Glad to be of help and thank you for all of your kind words. :)Natalie Tzehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10329191355574098523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4130537499074859934.post-74542154176563279502017-02-20T19:46:00.044+13:002017-02-20T19:46:00.044+13:00The more the merrier, Karen :)The more the merrier, Karen :)Fiona Ferrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01493105915055099408noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4130537499074859934.post-490199175621557732017-02-20T19:44:40.556+13:002017-02-20T19:44:40.556+13:00I'm sad to hear that you lost a child, Karen. ...I'm sad to hear that you lost a child, Karen. I lost a brother and I very rarely talk about him to people for the exact reason you say.<br /><br />I have never thought to ask people if they have children, probably because I don't have them myself. Quite regularly I am asked in small-talk if I have kids and I say No with a big smile. They don't really know where to go after that!Fiona Ferrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01493105915055099408noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4130537499074859934.post-72617667256783775282017-02-19T18:51:30.746+13:002017-02-19T18:51:30.746+13:00Love it, Fiona!Love it, Fiona!Karen Trefzgerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08860603569108130134noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4130537499074859934.post-24036820213580410192017-02-19T18:50:05.604+13:002017-02-19T18:50:05.604+13:00Natalie, you are so right, no one is born a good c...Natalie, you are so right, no one is born a good conversationalist. Remember Elizabeth Bennet telling Darcy he should take the trouble to practice talking to strangers?! You've made some great suggestions for practicing this useful skill . . . thank you!Karen Trefzgerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08860603569108130134noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4130537499074859934.post-67358668172503189502017-02-19T18:47:11.253+13:002017-02-19T18:47:11.253+13:00Anonymous, I've heard people make the kind of ...Anonymous, I've heard people make the kind of comments you're talking about ("Oh, you're so selfish not to want children. . .") and I think it's incredibly rude. I can't believe how some people behave.<br />I think asking about children is a delicate question because one of my children has passed away. When I am asked about my children, I talk about the one lovely daughter I'm fortunate to have, and about her child. I don't say anything about my son . . . and that makes me feel very sad. But I don't want to get into a conversation about his life and death with a stranger, so I don't speak about him. I act as if I only ever had one child. And I hate that! Please, dear readers of Fiona's wonderful blog, don't ask strangers about their children at a party.Karen Trefzgerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08860603569108130134noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4130537499074859934.post-54372761533378740322017-02-16T16:29:29.068+13:002017-02-16T16:29:29.068+13:00Yay, Elizabeth, glad to help! Please come back an...Yay, Elizabeth, glad to help! Please come back and leave a comment with how you did after the party - have fun :)Fiona Ferrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01493105915055099408noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4130537499074859934.post-43046420566234876832017-02-16T04:07:30.243+13:002017-02-16T04:07:30.243+13:00Dear Everyone - thank you all SO much for all your...Dear Everyone - thank you all SO much for all your suggestions - and thank you Fiona for putting the question in the first place! Everything you've all said makes complete sense and has given me plenty of strategies for the upcoming party; it's just possible that I might actually enjoy it! I will keep you posted, let you know which worked best - youknow, I am actually looking forward to it now!! Best wishes Elizabeth.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4130537499074859934.post-78462202655908747032017-02-14T13:54:55.669+13:002017-02-14T13:54:55.669+13:00💝💝Fiona Ferrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01493105915055099408noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4130537499074859934.post-48713433700510079232017-02-14T13:41:15.371+13:002017-02-14T13:41:15.371+13:00'Contemplation Corner'. I love it :)'Contemplation Corner'. I love it :)Laranoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4130537499074859934.post-56811623011783614562017-02-13T16:43:52.064+13:002017-02-13T16:43:52.064+13:00Lara, it will be the Introvert's Nook perhaps....Lara, it will be the Introvert's Nook perhaps. At my favourite 5-star hotel in Auckland that we go to maybe once a year for a night, there is a Contemplation Corner in the spa which is by the rooftop pool. It's so peaceful and lovely in there :)<br /><br />People watching is such fun, especially when they are glamorous and stylish!Fiona Ferrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01493105915055099408noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4130537499074859934.post-62097734767151413302017-02-12T21:30:19.652+13:002017-02-12T21:30:19.652+13:00So much good advice and useful tips, in both your ...So much good advice and useful tips, in both your column and all of the comments. I'm relieved to read that others feel anxious about social gatherings. I never used to but have in recent years.<br /><br />Fiona - I liked your suggestions of the introverts being allowed to sit quietly in their own area. Brilliant ! Sometimes I get more joy from people watching than I do from conversing. After three years of a mystery chronic illness that left me constantly tired, small talk with strangers was often too much for me and I would find myself declining most social invitations as a result. I'm now recovering (thank goodness) but still enjoy people watching, especially in large public areas.<br /><br />Thank you for another wonderful and thought provoking posting :)Laranoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4130537499074859934.post-56819244187250261642017-02-12T07:18:56.058+13:002017-02-12T07:18:56.058+13:00That's great, Gill. Thank you so much :)That's great, Gill. Thank you so much :)Fiona Ferrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01493105915055099408noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4130537499074859934.post-79282964379065167672017-02-12T07:18:22.368+13:002017-02-12T07:18:22.368+13:00D, it's BYO book or Kindle (or knitting) :)D, it's BYO book or Kindle (or knitting) :)Fiona Ferrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01493105915055099408noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4130537499074859934.post-49874308542223886412017-02-12T07:14:00.415+13:002017-02-12T07:14:00.415+13:00Hi Fiona, just subscribed and received your 21 chi...Hi Fiona, just subscribed and received your 21 chic list. So nice! Loved it. Thanks for that. Looking forward to following you. Gill D'achadahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07533704272408459065noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4130537499074859934.post-30381045077722194722017-02-12T06:17:22.125+13:002017-02-12T06:17:22.125+13:00Ha ha, I love it Fiona! I'll be there too :)...Ha ha, I love it Fiona! I'll be there too :)<br /><br />D.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4130537499074859934.post-46340784671199875762017-02-11T21:22:48.985+13:002017-02-11T21:22:48.985+13:00Thank you, Princess; 'what would she do?' ...Thank you, Princess; 'what would she do?' is one of my favourite techniques.<br /><br />You crack me up with your words 'love being in a cave', 'shot of my chosen poison'. Hehe, I love your sense of humour :)Fiona Ferrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01493105915055099408noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4130537499074859934.post-73840874809887906482017-02-11T21:21:18.199+13:002017-02-11T21:21:18.199+13:00So true, you learn a lot about a person that you m...So true, you learn a lot about a person that you might not have known before you went to their funeral - even family members. It is sad.<br /><br />I do love your question though, Melissa; it is inspired :)Fiona Ferrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01493105915055099408noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4130537499074859934.post-43271170949286610432017-02-11T21:19:39.995+13:002017-02-11T21:19:39.995+13:00Maybe there should be a separate introvert area at...Maybe there should be a separate introvert area at any party so we can all gather there with our books to read in companionable silence.<br /><br />I'd be a starter :) Leave the small talk to all the extroverts.<br /><br />Wait, did I say that all out loud?Fiona Ferrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01493105915055099408noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4130537499074859934.post-89411529993443558922017-02-11T21:16:52.747+13:002017-02-11T21:16:52.747+13:00I love your card-in-the-purse idea, because some o...I love your card-in-the-purse idea, because some of us do get stage fright and forget all our polite questions when we enter a room. 'Deer in the headlights' is the look. I love your idea for getting something to eat - excellent segue :)Fiona Ferrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01493105915055099408noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4130537499074859934.post-57449932896056723342017-02-11T21:14:35.633+13:002017-02-11T21:14:35.633+13:00I know the date I met my husband too, and I agree ...I know the date I met my husband too, and I agree that this is the most meaningful anniversary. Hope you had a lovely day :)Fiona Ferrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01493105915055099408noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4130537499074859934.post-23059988040489967932017-02-11T00:54:03.985+13:002017-02-11T00:54:03.985+13:00As a writer I used to interview people and the bes...As a writer I used to interview people and the best way to get a conversation going is to ask questions that don't result with a simple Yes/No reply. For instance, "Have you seen a good film recently?" might get the response "No" so that would kill that opening gambit right away, but instead ask "I wonder, if we were Hollywood stars what we'd wear on the red carpet ... if I had her figure, I'd love to be in Givenchy such as Audrey Hepburn used to wear (or if the person you are speaking to is far younger, pick a younger star and designer!), what about you, whom would you choose ...?" Of course, this would be directed at a woman, but to a chap you could ask if he drives and if he could choose right now to change his car, and money was no option, what might be the car of his dreams ...? <br />I think Natalie T has some excellent advice here.<br />Margaret P galanthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14190356279359463949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4130537499074859934.post-17466290950320811902017-02-11T00:47:31.973+13:002017-02-11T00:47:31.973+13:00Oh, I didn't make it all that clear, Fiona ......Oh, I didn't make it all that clear, Fiona ... it's the anniversary of our first date, not our wedding anniversary, which is in October (53 years in Oct) ... I consider the day we met as our most important anniversary, tee-hee! We are not going out to celebrate, it's far too cold to venture out unless we actually have to!<br />Margaret Pgalanthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14190356279359463949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4130537499074859934.post-57366685450938515932017-02-10T16:53:42.987+13:002017-02-10T16:53:42.987+13:00Margaret, happy wedding anniversary for tomorrow! ...Margaret, happy wedding anniversary for tomorrow! A winter bride!Fiona Ferrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01493105915055099408noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4130537499074859934.post-19779405568845543932017-02-10T16:49:48.660+13:002017-02-10T16:49:48.660+13:00You're a star, Aurora, such good ideas in your...You're a star, Aurora, such good ideas in your comment! Thank you :)Fiona Ferrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01493105915055099408noreply@blogger.com